Goals for the Rest of 2017

Hello frenz! Welcome back to whatever this blog has come to. I've been bored with my blog lately, so I thought about doing something a little different. I've seen these done before and I think it's fabulous to share goals with likeminded individuals. I've tried to keep this post upbeat, but to be honest, I haven't been so positive lately. So here goes – my goal list for the rest of 2017.

I've been unemployed since March, so that makes a total of almost five months now. I was planning to join the Air Force, but realized that I was leaving too much behind (also I'm too old to be tricked by military schemes). I put that goal behind me and now I have another – to find a job. Not only do I need one to pay my bills and buy food, but I'm tired of not working. Every day since losing my job has turned into a blur and I'm ready to be productive again.

I really don't want to live in Pennsylvania anymore. It's poor and highly taxed. The weather sucks and my town should be known as Drug and Crime Central. By getting a decent (and steady) paycheck from accomplishing Goal #1, I hope to be able to start saving enough money to get the hell out of here within the next two years.

I want to write for a living, I've known that for some time now. I want to be a full time writer or even a full time blogger at some point. I want to get my blog out there and create a name for myself. I need to start creating my empire.

I don't think I've ever had this amount of stress in my life. I have nervous breakdowns almost every day, mostly due to lack of money. I can't afford things I want and need. I want to live stress free again. I want to be able to enjoy life and wake up happy.

This is something I've wanted to do for some time, but haven't had the money or want to invest the time in. But Halloween is coming up and you best believe I want to scare all the kiddos on the block this year.

Since money has been so tight recently, I've only been eating once a day and skipping the gym to conserve gas. I need to get back into the routine of working out regularly and eating enough so I don't waste away into nothing. It's easier said than done when you have $-33 to your name.

My trip to Florida at the beginning of July was so incredible. Seeing and spending time with my family meant so much to me. I want to make it into a regular visit.

I really do enjoy reading, but I lack the interest to do anything other than nap (thanks depression). I also find myself reading the words but daydreaming about something else, which leads me to reading the same paragraph ten times. I have so many books but have only read maybe five of them. I'd like to read them all and then add to my collection.

It sounds a little materialistic but I'm a sucker when it comes to makeup. I watch and read tons of reviews on new products and I want them all…but lack the dough to get them. I haven't purchased any new makeup in at least a year, and it's breaking my heart.

Last Christmas was horrible. I wasn't able to get anything for anyone and it made me feel so low. Christmas is my second favorite holiday and I love giving to others. I want to be able to give to everyone I can this year, and even to the less fortunate. I miss having the means to be generous.

I haven't been happy in such a long time, and I really miss the feeling of enjoying life. I need to get that feeling back for my own sanity.

I'm keeping this list as my own little time capsule of things I want to accomplish. I hope to look back in January 2018 to have accomplished all of these and then some. Here's to my future endeavors.


The Problem with Modern Day Job Searching

Hello frenz and welcome back! How are ya?! So I made a poll on Twitter the other day, talking about making a to-be-honest, cut throat, rant-style blog post about the struggle of job searching. The ballots are in and it seems yes won by a landslide. So here it is, and believe me the struggle (and frustration) is real!

Money, money, monnnaaayyy!

Everything revolves around money. Money has become a survival tool, especially with the value of a dollar gradually decreasing. In order to obtain and sustain money, a job should be in order. In most parts of the world, jobs are hard to come by, especially semi-decent, well paying jobs.

"How are we expected to live like this?"

I don't know about you, but I'm definitely in the market for a job, since losing mine in March. The job search for me has become increasingly difficult and tedious. I don't think I'm being too picky when I ask for full time hours at decent pay. The minimum wage in Pennsylvania is $7.25 an hour. That equals out to $290 a week (40 hours) BEFORE taxes. You get about $100 (sometimes more depending on how much you make) taken out for taxes. That's $190 a week, or $760 a month.

What makes employers think that that low of a wage is livable for anyone? Yes, when you're really broke, money is money. But what do you do when you can't afford your rent or the electric bill or gas for your car, among all the other bills you might be juggling, and you're only getting paid $190 a week? It's not reasonable. I could live off of a $9 an hour wage, which only equals out to $360 a week (before taxes). In some states, $9 an hour or MORE is the minimum wage! To reiterate, I don't think I'm being too picky when I ask for a decent wage.

Okay, what is it with employers asking for 3+ years experience for an ENTRY LEVEL job? In order to gain experience, you need someone to give you a chance, but in order to get a chance, you need to have experience. I'm a fast learner. Give me two, maybe three days top of training and I bet you I could do the job. I understand wanting to hire a person because they already have experience in a certain field, but come on! Give us a chance to do the job before you decide that we're incompetent.

Not only do employers ask for a massive amount of experience, but it seems like nowadays they are only willing to give part time hours (usually only up to 20). In Pennsylvania, the employers do it so they don't have to pay the extra money to offer you benefits. Isn't that fucked up? Not only are you not getting any benefits whatsoever, but you're also getting paid less money per paycheck — and it's not like you're working for much as it is.

A lot of employers straight up lie on their job ads, especially healthcare positions like Home Health Aides or CNAs. They list that they offer full time or part time positions and that they pay $18 an hour. So you think to yourself, fabulous! I can work part time and still bring home decent money! Uh-uh, wrongo. You apply, end up getting the job, and then realize that you're working ten hours a week and that they can't offer full time hours. THEN WHY SAY THAT YOU DO? It's a way to sucker people in and leave them still living in poverty. It's a lose/lose situation.

And for the people who have military experience, forget about it. At least where I reside, employers will swear up and down that they hire veterans. But do they? My boyfriend has applied to a billion jobs (with only having military experience) and has received zero phone calls. So you hire veterans, huh? I bet.

It's the same with college graduates. You might have graduated top of your class, but employers don't care. They say you're too young. You're too inexperienced. You're too this, you're too that. It's utter nonsense. It's like employers are looking for specially programmed robots rather than taking a day or two to train a real person.

It's come to the point where so many people who are living on their own can't find a job. They're forced to move back in with family and take a minimum wage job at Burger King, never using their degree (or training) and feeling like they've wasted the last however many years of their lives.

Is this an issue that can be changed? Or is it going to get to the point where the economy becomes so bad and jobs become so scarce that society just collapses?

Just know that if that does happen, the people living poverty will survive, because it already feels like society collapsed right on top of them.

[Photo Credit: Pixabay]

GUIDE TO: Running a Mobile Blog

Blogging is hard. Blogging is tedious. Between tweeting, instagramming and the pride and glory blog itself, it can take up your entire day. Unless you're totally fine with spending the majority of your days indoors, you might want to try running your blog from a handheld device, like a tablet or even your phone.

I've been blogging for a few months now, and most of it has been completely done from my phone. That's right; whole posts, picture edits, proofreading, all done from my iPhone. I don't have a set space to blog. My laptop screen doesn't work, so it has to be hooked up to a TV, which isn't my ideal blogging setup. I like to blog on the go, that way I never miss the chance at writing down an idea. Here's how you can, too!

First, you're going to need an app (or some sort of internet browser) for your blog. WordPress and Blogger both have apps for iPhone and Android devices with an easy to use interface. You want to be able to check your blog stats, read other blogs and also be able to upload posts from your handheld.

You're also going to want to download a notepad to your handheld. Just look up notepad or notebook in your App Store and choose the one you like best. I personally use an app simply called, Notebook.

It allows you to create different notebooks with pretty designs and it has fun background colors. You can also change your font! It's easy to use and there's no sign up required.

You'll want to create a folder on your handheld specially for your blogging apps. I keep all of my social and blogging apps in one folder, since mobile blogging can be a little chaotic.

Along with social apps and a notepad, you're going to need some photo editing apps. My favorite is Photo Editor.

It allows you to adjust the lighting and overall look of your photos. I also use InstaSize for their adjusting features and filters.

You can always download different photo editors to play around with and decide which you like best. Now you're all set! Get to typing that newest blog post!

Once you've typed your first (or final draft), go ahead and copy & paste it into your blog's app (or internet browser). Chances are the format is going to be a little off, so make sure you're triple checking your work. You don't want to spend all this time on an amazing post, just to have the published version look wonky.

You'll need to do the final touches, like bold or italicize text and add links all in your app or internet browser. I haven't found a notebook app that does all of that….yet! If you know of one, PLEASE let me know.

I've found that uploading your content first and then editing/uploading your pictures last can save time and cause you less hassle. Try creating an album on your phone dedicated to blog pictures. You can even delete all drafts of pictures except for the final, just so it doesn't get messy.

There are some things, however, you might want to use your computer for — like editing your theme. I've tried and tried again to edit my theme via handheld internet browser, but it just doesn't work for me. Everything is entirely too small and you're not able to see the true look of your blog. Save theme editing for your handy dandy computer.

And there you have it. You're now well equipped to run your blog completely from your handheld! Now go out there, live your life while also strutting a blogger's paradise right in your hand!

[Feature Photo Credit: Pixabay]

7 Things You Need to be Doing if You’re Unemployed and Broke AF


When I was 16 years old, I wanted to be a marine biologist. I thought I was going to go to college, get a masters or even a doctorate. I thought I would work in some futuristic lab that was on top of the ocean and I would have this amazing job and all the money in the world. Fast forward seven years; no masters or doctorate, I live in a small apartment with my boyfriend and three pets, and I’m unemployed. 

Being in your 20s is hard enough, and then you lose your job and you think your life is actually falling and crumbling right before your eyes. Before you submerge your feelings in double fudge ice cream, here are seven things you need to be doing if you’re unemployed and broke AF. 

1. Learn to manage money. 

Managing money is really hard, especially when you want a burrito from Taco Bell at 1 a.m., but try to cut the spending and resist the fast food urge. Prioritize your bills and pay the most important first. I always make sure rent is paid above all else. My dad always used to say,

“A roof over your head is the most important thing, the rest are luxuries.”

Instead of eating out at expensive restaurants every day, try grocery shopping at discount stores like Aldis (my personal favorite), Good Cents or even the Dollar Tree. Everything is just $1 and they have a pretty awesome selection, like freezer foods and dairy products. Discount food stores also have a ton of weird and different foods, so have fun with it!

2. Learn to cook

This goes along with the first. Learning to cook, if you don’t know how to already, will literally change your life. You can make the most delicious meals, have leftovers AND not spend a ridiculous price to have it cooked for you. There are tons of websites and apps for all sorts of recipes. Give it a go and I promise you’ll thank yourself later. 

3. Conserve gasoline and electricity. 

As sad as it is, the days of driving around with your friends are over, at least for now. Conserve, conserve, conserve. Try carpooling. When I go to the gym and I don’t have enough gas, I ask my sister for a ride since she’s going to the same place. Carpooling can be a serious life saver. Also try conserving the electric you use in your apartment (if it’s not included in your rent) to keep your electric bill as small as you can. Turn off unnecessary lights and unplug things like your microwave and even your phone charger. Try setting the sleep mode on your TV at night, too. 

4. Keep a change jar 

This is something I grew up doing. My dad always kept one of those ten-gallon containers for loose change. My boyfriend and I do this and it’s a life saver. Need quarters to do laundry? Change jar. Need a few bucks for gas money? Change jar. I saved up for 6 months and cashed it in at a CoinStar, $60 extra in my pocket. 

5. Ask friends/family for help

My boyfriend and I have done this so so so much and it actually helped out in the really binding situations. His mom would give us bags of groceries that she wasn’t going to eat, as would his dad and even my sister. Not only food, but we got a free couch through my sister’s boyfriend’s grandma. You’d be surprised what people are willing to give away if you just ask. 

6. Find a side gig

If you’re unemployed like mwah, obviously looking for a job is the number one priority, but if you can swing it a little bit, try looking for a side gig like dog walking or babysitting. A little bit of money is better than no money at all!

7. Do not dwell on what cannot be changed. 

This is by far the most important. Don’t let your anxiety and emotions take control. There is nothing that can be done about the situation. All that can be done is trying to fix it, like looking for jobs religiously and being active and productive during the day. Becoming a couch potato is only going to make you feel worse than you already do. 

Unemployment is one of the most frustrating situations to be in, especially in your 20s. You’re already trying to figure it all out and now this on top of it makes like almost unbearable. Just take it one day at a time and fight like hell. Just like a storm, this will pass.

5 Things Millennials are Tired of Hearing in the Workplace 


If you’re anything like me, you question every life decision you’ve made that lead you to having to get a big girl/boy job. I’ve had four major jobs throughout the three years I’ve been on my own and they were no walk in the park. 

Being a 20something without a college degree makes it a little tough to get a “career” type job. So, what are you left to do than to take mediocre jobs to just pay the bills and get by.  These jobs usually consist of some crappy uniform and a boss/coworker that thinks you’re nothing but a common joke. 

This is a list of things I’ve personally been told while being employed that no millennial wants to hear in the workplace.

“You’re just young and inexperienced.”

I worked as a pediatric aide for this family for two months, and it was the worst two months of my existence. Not only was the dad a total jackass, but he also thought I was a total moron. My first day of work, my Chevy got stuck trying to get up his snow covered mountain of a road (not exaggerating, it was a literal dirt road on the side of a mountain). He blamed it on me being young and inexperienced. “You haven’t driven in the snow a lot yet, so you don’t really know what you’re doing.” Wrong, but whatever.

“So, you live with your parents?”

Why is it that since I’m 23, it’s automatically assumed that I still live with my parents? Sorry buddy, but if I still lived with my parents, I would definitely not be working for you. 

“I can’t believe you don’t know how to…”

Before my adventures into pediatric (aka demon) care, I worked for an older lady who was disabled. She was the bitchiest old woman I’ve ever met. She was infuriated with the fact that I didn’t know how to set hair with curlers, like you see on old people in movies from the 50s. I learned how to do it in like 10 minutes because it’s not rocket science but she was insistent that I was consistently doing it wrong, just because I didn’t know how to do it the day before, which leads me to….

“You don’t know how to do things the right way, because you’re so young.”

Believe it or not, I can do dishes and laundry and get the mail without trouble. I didn’t live under a rock for the last 23 years. 

I had this boss at my first job that was a literal see-you-next-tuesday. She promoted me to her position as supervisor and then got so mad at me for not doing it her way. There were times she would call me on the phone and scream at me about what I was or wasn’t doing. She made me stay late and come in early more times than I could count. She always reminded me of my age and always laughed because I didn’t know anything. I left that job high and dry, which wasn’t the greatest decision I’ve made but you live, you learn.

I totally get the stereotype of millennials in the workplace. We’re looked at as the lazy generation, why would we be taken seriously? Yeah, there are a lot of 20somethings that sleep until 2:00 in the afternoon and can hardly boil water, and then there are others. 

To all of you suffering through your day job with the pompous fools of older generations, I salute you. Keep on keepin’ on.